Millions of people suffer from the affliction known as passive aggressiveness. If you don’t know what this means, consider how you would react to a situation like the one above. If you would go ape nuts on the guy above and attack him, you aren’t passive aggressive. If you would smile, walk away and plot your revenge by writing a nasty letter to his parents, you are passive aggressive. Being a person that has never been in a fight (well, one that was done face to face anyways), and one that doesn’t like confrontation, I have always been a passive aggressive person. An example:
I got to work one day and my coaster was missing (some call it a mousepad, but whatever). I was irritated and bitter of course, so I did some really genius investigating. I walked over to someone’s desk and realized that they had my mouse pad. I remembered the day before that she was asking about getting one to my boss. Putting two and two together like the genius that I am, I realized the coupe had been done behind my back. Most people would have confronted the boss and just asked if they had taken the mouse pad. This is how I handled it. I complained to a sympathetic co-worker. Then, I sent an email saying, “Could I order a new mousepad? I think I lost mine.” Immediate response. “I actually took it for our new co-worker. You can have mine and I will order a new one.” Coaster found.
I’m sure it would be much more fun to confront that person head and get the satisfaction and results that way, but to a PA, nothing is more cool than doing things the subtle, bitter, snarky, spy-like way. We are the James Bond of confrontation(the sneaky part, not the blowing things up part.)
So for the picture of the week, I present to you Future Passive Aggressive and Bitter Girl.
Present Passive Aggressive Bitter Ben
- Passive Aggressive Relationships (woman2womaninc.com)
- Standing up for yourself. (needtoletgo.wordpress.com)
- Effective Communication Is Neither Too Passive Nor Too Aggressive (atlantablackstar.com)